While most women choose to have some type of reconstruction, some women don’t want to have additional surgery.Some also don’t want to deal with special bras, magnets, or adhesive patches that hold a prosthesis in place.” As one might expect, the breast implants are what usually interest guys the most.Often they assume that I could pick any implant size I want, so I politely correct them (read: laugh in their face–hahaha, !My mom is living proof of this, what with her new boobs and flat tummy.
Many women and doctors call this “going flat” or “living flat.” If you've had one breast removed and feel self-conscious about looking lopsided, try going without a breast form at home.
When it comes to talking about the actual mastectomy surgery, I start with a basic “I replaced the stuffing on my boobs.” I then elaborate with a much more scientifically backed “I took out the potentially bad tissue and replaced it with implants.” (I think that’s what they write in the medical journals, right?
) I avoid discussing the thrilling experience of emptying the bloody goo out of my Jackson Pratt drains, the pathetic feeling of not being able to lift myself up out of bed to shuffle to the bathroom, and the crippling fear of “Oh my god, are my nipples going to make it out of this alive?!
Then try running an errand or going out for coffee without your prosthesis.
You’ll probably find that people don’t notice the difference, or if they do, it’s not a big deal.
Support was the name of the game, and if an outfit couldn’t be worn with a bra, it wouldn’t be worn at all.