Infidelity while dating
To deflect suspicion, they could claim to be particularly committed to sexual restraint,” Jones explains.
The typical affair used to start in the office and move to a seedy motel room, but the vast reach of the Internet has brought infidelity into many couples’ homes over the past decade.
In all, 80,000 matches were made between the 200,000 Ashley Madison user accounts and the 50 million voters registered in the five states.
The chances that a registered voter spent money on Ashley Madison with the intent to cheat in a romantic relationship varied substantially based on their political party.
“The Internet is opening up these new ways of exploring your sexuality and that includes infidelity,” she says.
Americans now spend as much time online as they do watching TV — about 13 hours a week.
“That is starting to even out in part because of the equality of opportunity that the Internet brings to everybody,” she says.
While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex.
It starts right under your roof,” says Elaine Ducharme, Ph D, a psychologist in Glastonbury, Conn., who specializes in cybersex addictions.“You can’t usually get rid of your computer in the house.Every time you walk by, you’re asking yourself if he or she is using it for an affair.” While most relationships are hampered by such workday realities as household chores and paying the bills, online relationships exist in an electronic nether world where strangers can construct their own identities, Hertlein says.Most polls about people’s opinions on sexual matters, such as premarital sex, adultery and prostitution, are based on self-report questionnaires.
However, there are often discrepancies between reported and actual behavior.“I think there is this bias that women don’t cheat for sexual reasons at all,” Hertlein says.“Women are supposed to be the nurturers and the matriarchs in our society.” Due to the secretive nature of online affairs, reliable statistics are hard to find, but a 2005 study of 1,828 Web users in Sweden offers evidence about the prevalence of cybersex and online affairs. A 2008 Australian study offers more insight into Internet affairs. More than half of the respondents believed an online relationship constituted unfaithfulness, with the numbers climbing to 71 percent for cybersex and 82 percent for in-person meetings.To get a more accurate representation of how well views agree with behavior, Arfer and Jones analyzed user data from the Ashley Madison adultery website that was leaked in 2015.